Maybe one day we’ll meet again when we’re different people.
Maybe then we’ll be better for each other.
How do you know if your inner voice or sense of guidance is your deeper-self speaking its wisdom, your unconscious childhood programming, or the voice of your Aunt Matilda? Discerning the difference between an automatic response stemming from family beliefs, childhood distortions, or culture, and guidance from our connection with our higher/deeper self, makes life, success, and relationships so much easier.
Anonymous asked: “I’ve been lonely for a long time now, hoping anyone who I perceive as better than me will scoop me up on a night kite rescue mission and love me so hard that I can finally forget about this feeling left over from all the years my blood was boiling. Dear Gravel, it doesn’t work like that. If anyone ever loves you that hard, hard as you’ve been dreaming, chances are you will not believe themuntil you accept yourself.”
I don’t know who you are and I’m not sure why you sent me that message… But today particularly, those words touch me deeply.
The quote is very sad but also very true.
Dissociation, in a general sense, refers to a rigid separation of parts of experiences, including somatic experiences, consciousness, affects, perception, identity, and memory. When there is a structural dissociation, each of the dissociated self-states has at least a rudimentary sense of “I” (Van der Hart et al., 2004). In my view, all of the environmentally based “psychopathology” or problems in living can be seen through this lens.
I guess you never really understand love once you’ve experienced it. Some think it’s a magical thing filled with romance and dreams, but in reality it can be a scary journey. Some don’t understand how fearful it is to let someone in, to be completely vulnerable. But I’m not saying it doesn’t have perks. It does. And they can be awesome.